Saturday, November 5, 2011

Lost Art Form, Old School or Both? Please Advise.

Hi Friends! I really hope y'all will give me some feedback on this because it's something that is totally perplexing to me. I absolutely adore handwritten notes. I love to receive them and I especially love sending them. There's nothing like a little note to brighten someone's day. I just love it! I know this is because of my upbringing. It's one of those lessons my beautiful mother instilled in me at a very young age. I developed a passion for writing early on and I can remember asking/begging for stationary and good, solid writing pens for Christmas and birthdays. I also remember my very first copy of Emily Post. It was given to me by a family friend and I treasured it for many years until it was ruined in a flood at my first apartment in Atlanta.Very unfortunate, but, I soon replaced it and also added the Emily Post Weddings Edition to my collection when I got engaged. You can only imagine how estatic I was to learn that the Emily Post Institute was set to release the 18th Edition Emily Post this fall, focusing on manners in a new world. I preordered it from Amazon as soon as I could and it finally arrived last week. I know, I'm a self-proclaimed nerd. I was so happy to receive it!

After receiving the newest edition, I started thinking about handwritten notes and made a mental list of ones I needed to send in the upcoming weeks. Then it occured to me that I have sent four wedding gifts in the last year and have received only one thank you note in return. And that's not counting ones from years past along with housewarming gifts, baby get the point. It's a little disappointing. It's not just that I work hard for my money and want others to appreciate the gifts I send, but it's also a reflection of my gift selection. Did I pick something they love or will use often? Having been a bride myself, I usually stick to the registry but even so, I remember receiving gifts that I adored or gifts that I knew would make my married life easier. For example, my red tea kettle that I love and use often or one of the many cookbooks that have made my life easier when it comes time for menu planning! Sure, I have grown to accept that people don't send handwritten notes for the sake of saying "hello" or "I'm thinking about you," like I enjoy doing, and that's okay. But thank you notes? And I mean handwritten notes, NOT emails.

So I guess it boils down to this... Are people just too busy to write thank you notes anymore? Do I hold people to too high of standards for expecting a handwritten note? Are they just rude for not sending one? Or, are handwritten thank you notes a lost art form and becoming a thing of the past? Call me a Southern Belle or Old School but in my world, handwritten notes are the best, most treasured form of communication.

What are your thoughts?

Disclaimer: I, in no way, consider myself the end-all, be-all when it comes to manners. I am not perfect...I have been late on sending a note once or twice in my life.  However, I really try to take other's feelings into consideration and be polite at all times...because that's how I was raised. And yes, I am aware that not everyone was raised like I was. Thanks, Mama! :) 

Feel free to leave your comments below!


  1. I'm convinced that hand written notes make all the difference! I may sure to always make time to write one- so important! Great post :)

  2. Thanks for your comment, Ashley! I agree, handwritten notes are so important...personally and professionally. Like you said, they really do make all the difference! :)

  3. I think hand written notes are a must!!! I love receiving all your notes. I think society has gotten so busy and out of touch with reality. People are becoming immersed in the digital world and they are forgetting the fundamental principals of etiquette. I am going to make sure that my son writes hand written notes! I am raising him with southern manners!!

    Christy Jacobs

  4. Thanks for your comment, Christy! I appreciate your kind words about my notes. I'm glad you enjoy them! I couldn't agree more...people really are leaving the fundamental principles of etiquette behind these days. Thank you for doing your part to raise a child fully equipped with Southern manners! :)

  5. Great post and you are welcome! MOM LOVES!


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